Fixes https://emqx.atlassian.net/browse/EMQX-9367
For better user experience and performance for the average bridge, we
should change the default queue mode to `memory_only`, as was the
behavior of most bridges in e4.x. This leads to better performance
when message rate is high enough and the remote resource is not
keeping up with EMQX.
Also, we set the default segment size to equal max queue bytes.