Port of https://github.com/emqx/emqx/pull/10154 for `release-50`
Fixes https://emqx.atlassian.net/browse/EMQX-9099
Originally, the `resume_interval`, which is what defines how often a
buffer worker will attempt to retry its inflight window, was set to
the same as the `health_check_interval`. This had the problem that,
with default values, `health_check_interval = request_timeout`. This
meant that, if a buffer worker with those configs were ever blocked,
all requests would have timed out by the time it retried them.
Here we change the default `resume_interval` to a reasonable value
dependent on `health_check_interval` and `request_timeout`, and also
expose that as a hidden parameter for fine tuning if necessary.